I’ve just finished reading “have him at HELLO confessions from 1000 guys about what makes them fall in love …or never call back” by Rachel Greenwald a professional dating coach and matchmaker. Over a ten year period she had interviewed 1000 single men, asking them why they called one women back and not another.
If you are an avid dater and are always asking yourself “Why don’t any of the great ones call me back?” then you should read this book. Rachel incorporated the “Exit Interview” concept from the corporate world to the dating world. She would call the dates that her clients felt went well but never got a call back for a second date and asked them why. Her research narrowed it down to different stereotypes that men considered date breakers. Some examples are the ‘Bitch in Boots’, ‘The Wino’ and ‘The Debbie Downer’. At the end of every date breaker is a check list to see if you fall under that category along with suggestions to help you date productively. Some of the stories will be a bit discouraging and will have you wonder why bother ala ‘The Blahs’ because you can’t win for trying. In truth we all have quirks and some quirks should not present themselves right away. This book is just a guide to help see if your quirks are dominating your date rather than letting the many facets of your wonderful self shine through. I think all the single ladies out there should read this book if not for dating advice but to get an idea of what men are thinking when they date.
You may be wondering what stereotype I fell under to be honest I could not find myself in the book. The reason being is my problem is not getting the call back it is getting the first date. It’s hard to tell what you’re doing wrong when you are not being given the chance to do it. I wonder if there is a book with advice on how to get a date without having to resort to online dating?
